MANCHESTER – HOW DO WE GRIEVE WITH YOU?

The recent horrific and murderous terrorist attack at Manchester Arena hits close to the heart as I am a mother and grandmother. Twelve children under the age of 16 were among the 59 casualties taken to hospital after the attack, according to David Ratcliffe, medical director of North West Ambulance Service in UK.
There is no way we can sleep at night knowing our children are now the targets of barbaric terrorists. Such horrendous attacks seem to have become a way of life in the West and while we are not surprised, the horror waves this particular attack sends through the world are unprecedented.
Obviously the families affected by this immense tragedy and ordinary citizens must be angry and frustrated with questions on their mind.
My question is: what is the Standard operating Procedure (SOP) for grieving?
The single most effective weapon the enemy uses is Islamophobia so if we ask tough questions, it’s not acceptable. If we want to know the reasons why Jihadists are killing our children, they call it Islamophobia. So essentially dialogue and discussion around the ideology surrounding a global jihadist insurgency are not welcome because we now live in a world where political correctness is the norm and word police are out to get you if you go over the prescribed limit on words usage.
Is this an effective way of dealing with an enemy who has declared war on our world and our values? Of course not!
In a statement our Prime Minister Justin Trudeau said he was shocked. I fail to see what is shocking about this. One is shocked when something you are not expecting happens. Terrorist attacks are horrifying and barbaric but not shocking if you already know the subversive agenda of the enemy.
At an interfaith event this past weekend in Montreal, all speakers agreed that we must identify the evil in our midst (even if it happens to be within our own communities) and then try to eliminate it. Like a virus, it must be identified, isolated and then removed. We also agreed that it’s not enough to say we are for peace; we must identify and remove the barriers to peace.
It is now time to show Muslims some tough love. Every Muslim individual, Mosque and Islamic organization should be asked to condemn (not just ISIS because that’s easy):
1. Condemn the notion of armed Jihad as obsolete in our times
2. Condemn the ideologies that emanate from The Muslim Brotherhood, Salafis and Khomenists
and
3. To uphold the UN Declaration of Human Rights.
If they fail to do so, you know where they stand.
Today let’s pray for Manchester. Tomorrow let’s pray for our leaders to have enough courage to name and shame this ideology so together we can fight the radical Islamist agenda that has a mandate to destroy our freedoms.

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HEY WORD & THOUGHT POLICE – CATCH ME IF YOU CAN! Raheel Raza

As a writer I was member of The Writers Union of Canada for some years and used to regularly receive their magazine Write. In my early years as a journalist it was a handy tool to help with the “Canadian experience”.
So it was with shock that I read the controversy surrounding Hal Niedzviecki, Write’s former editor, who said “I don’t believe in cultural appropriation… In my opinion, anyone, anywhere, should be encouraged to imagine other peoples, other cultures, other identities.” He has since resigned.
The shock is not with what Niedzviecki wrote, but the knee jerk reaction of TWUC officials who are begging forgiveness for the opinions advanced by Niedzviecki who also suggested (much to my delight) an “Appropriation Prize for best book by an author who writes about people who aren’t even remotely like her or him.”
I believe I could be nominated for this “appropriation prize”.
In my years as a journalist, I’ve written about communities and cultures totally different from mine. I covered the centennial of the Sikhs in Canada and received amazing feedback from that community. I wrote about Zoroastrians because there was no one covering stories about this minority community and I knew a lot about them. I’ve also been guilty of writing about Indigenous and Aboriginal cultures because I’m fascinated by their spirituality. Of course I did my research and ensured that I’m doing justice to another culture.
Similarly as a South Asian, I’ve written about faiths other than mine. Hindus, Sikhs, Buddhists and Muslims largely comprise the South Asian community and I’ve taken pleasure in covering events and stories about these faith communities. One reason that Canada prides itself on its diversity is that fact we as immigrants interact on a daily basis with a variety of cultures and traditions.
So it’s no secret that my dream novels characters are from diverse faiths and cultures. Does this make me guilty of “cultural appropriation”? In some eyes perhaps but I have the freedom to imagine these cultural interactions because this in reality is what’s happening on the ground. Romances across faith and culture are happening all the time. But who would be competent to write about them under cultural appropriation rules? The universe of qualified writers who fit the same demographic would be exceedingly small.
The idea that I, as a South Asian should only write about my own culture, is abhorrent and unacceptable in a country that prides itself on free speech.
Or does it? Last I checked Canada was a democracy and not a police state. My progress as a writer happened only because of the freedoms I embrace in North America and I will fight tooth and nail to preserve these values.
So to read scandals about the rise of word and thought police, not just in case of TWUC but in other instances as well (i.e. Professor Jordan Peterson of University of Toronto) is very concerning. I note that in academia is where word police works best. I was informed that in some Universities, there are lists given out about words that can’t be used and strict rules governing student’s rights to question some issues related to specific cultures. There are also events cancelled when the speaker is controversial. What does this say about Universities being the bastion of free speech allowing students to think critically?
I noticed this most when I travelled across dozens of College and University campuses screening the film “Honor Diaries” which deals with Honor Based Violence. This is when the terms “cultural appropriation” and “cultural relativism” were first thrown my way, not by students but by academics. Ironically the critics could not slam me for being a Muslim woman speaking about violence in Muslim majority societies, so they attacked the director, producer, and funders of the film. Good way to deflect from the real issues!
It’s great to see that other writers have weighed in on the debate. Those concerned about free speech have expressed their own disgust at the actions of TWUC.
Jonathan Kay writes in The National Post about “political correctness, hypersensitivity and tokenism”, all of which I too believe are undermining our efforts to be creative, artistic and critical thinkers.

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RENEWING OUR FAITH IN HUMANITY

“We all face death in the end. But on the way beware to never hurt a human heart’ Rumi
We live in times when the world faces many challenges. Politicians are selling their souls for votes, leaders and lying for popularity and we are being brainwashed to trust no one. Therefore we sometimes feel that humanity is at a loss.
On this Mothers Day I want to reflect on how we renewed our faith in humanity and found that there is indeed good in everyone. It’s been a humbling and learning experience.
My mother in law (Amma) used to live with us for many years and like any other relationship we had our ups and downs, but we tried to do what we thought was our best. Few years ago she needed full time care and went to Pakistan to her daughter’s home. Both my husband and I had twinges of guilt over time that we could have done more. It’s always in retrospect that this happens and few people are blessed enough to have second chances.
A month ago Amma became seriously ill in London U.K. and was taken to Northfield Hospital where she was in intensive care for a week and then transferred to a hospital room. Her kidneys had stopped working.
While we were shattered at this turn of events, it turns out that it was a blessing in disguise in that Amma was able to get the initial treatment that literally saved her life. She had no health coverage in UK so this was unaffordable in the long term and the only solution was to take her back to Pakistan where she wanted to be anyway.
What happened in those weeks since she was taken ill and how people, ordinary humans from across the globe, transcending all faiths and cultures, came to our help has totally been an eye opener for us. From candles being lit everyday in a Toronto church to Anna the considerate nurse at Northfield Hospital to concerned friends who reached out to us from Israel offering her health care there, everyone was caring and compassionate. None of this was about religiosity – it was only about humanity at its best.
Across three continents Amma’s children (and grandchildren) all came together in amazing ways to confer with each other on the best way to deal with the situation. But how to undertake this seemingly impossible journey? Well we decided that we would do this as a tag team with each one doing their part.
Sohail and I cleared our calendars and flew to London. Here we were met by his brother and son (who had been Amma’s caregivers for over two months) at the PIA check in desk. We were originally sceptical because PIA had a reputation of not being on time and we had a preconceived notion that they would be inefficient. Once again we were proven wrong. From the start PIA personnel went out of their way to be efficient and helpful. This is not just duty but above and beyond. The check-in clerk was very helpful getting Amma and me seats together and ensuring Sohail that he would not be seated far from us as in Ammas condition her only option was to fly Business Class with an attendant.
Then came the intricate and challenging process of getting across Heathrow Airports lengthy corridors with a patient so sick that she was nauseous the entire time and cried out in pain at every movement. I thought that the personnel would become impatient but they treated Amma with kid gloves, speaking to her gently and helping us across immigration and to the lounge. They brought us tissues and clean up gear and assured Amma she would be okay. Amma was nervous and trembling with fear on how she would be transferred to the aircraft. Truth be told so were we.
But the wheelchair handlers were gentle and firm. At one point Amma cried out “how will you take me?” and one of them said “Amma this is our job. We are trained to do this so don’t worry, we won’t hurt you”. True to their word, two of them gently lifted Amma from one wheelchair to another, wheeled her the entire way and then delicately lifted her onto the seat. By this time I was biting my nails with tension but these people made it happen.
The crew was so kind. They brought me hot towels, tissues, bags and helped me settle Amma. They waited patiently when I fed her and looked after all our needs with gentle care and understanding. And the plane left on time. We were so impressed.
At Islamabad airport the same thing happened but in a more organic way. They are not well equipped so everything had to be done manually. However the loaders and helpers were as kind and caring as they would be to their own mothers. At that end, Amma’s son-in-law had made all the arrangements and was waiting inside with a protocol officer who whisked Amma away in an ambulance to the hospital and we did not have to wait in any lines for immigration or customs.
The hospital called Shifa in Islamabad is state of the art. Clean, efficient beyond words and upto par with the latest technology. Amma’s doctor took one look at her and said “I’m not going to let you die”. The nurses and personnel once again were kind and compassionate along with being efficient. Amma who had not eaten anything for 48 hours was able to get something she liked and they made sure she was well taken care of.
This is to say that our one week trip was a mind-changing experience like no other. Not only did this renew our faith in humanity but it also gave us a chance to show our love and care for our mother. Now Amma is home and settled with her daughter and we know she is on her way to recovery because she is fighting back (in more ways than one).
“Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.” – Rumi

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A MEETING OF MODERN MUSLIM MINDS

Sunday March 26 was a wet, dark and cold day in Toronto. But inside the boardroom of Hilton Garden Inn, there was warmth, light and critical thinking.
This is because Muslims and non-Muslims came together for a one day summit to speak about issues that face all of us.
The event was hosted by Muslims Facing Tomorrow and supported by The Canadian Coalition Against Terrorism. Organizations attending were: The American Islamic Forum on Democracy, Middle East Forum, Muslim Reform Movement, The Clarion Project and Forum for Learning. We were professionally and artistically facilitated by Courtney Lonergan.
We discussed strategies to strengthen ourselves in combatting Islamism as reform minded Muslims with all the challenges involved.
The event culminated with a dinner for supporters of our movement. There were heartfelt speeches by Dr. Daniel Pipes, Dr. Zuhdi Jasser , Asra Nomani and Professor Salim Mansur. Also attending were Professor Jordan Peterson and Ezra Levant.
The response was overwhelming. One attendee wrote “all my heroes in one place. The evening inspired me to reaffirm my commitment to participate in this work through my writings…” and “A wonderful dinner with wonderful people. Thank you Raheel Raza & MFT for all your dedication and passion in the fight against extremism.”
Stay tuned for more information and action as this movement grows.

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M-103 won’t build a more united Canada. It will turn Canadians against each other (National Post, Feb 22, 17)

On Dec. 5, 2016, Canadian MP Iqra Khalid proposed Motion 103 (a motion against Islamophobia) and began her statement in parliament by saying, “Mr. Speaker, I am a young, brown, Muslim, Canadian woman …”

I find it curious that she begins by identifying herself first as brown, then Muslim and lastly as a Canadian. To my understanding, a Canadian member of parliament should identify as Canadian first. Being Canadian means showing concern for everyone, not just a select group of people. Perhaps this may be the reason why Khalid has not studied what Islamophobia really means.

The term Islamophobia was created in the 1990s, when groups affiliated to the U.S. Muslim Brotherhood decided to play victim for the purpose of beating down critics. It is also in sync with a constant push by the OIC (Organization of Islamic Cooperation) to turn any criticism of Islam or Muslims into blasphemy. Is this what we want in Canada? Blasphemy laws?

As a Canadian Muslim, I am very concerned about the direction we are headed in. My family and I came to Canada 29 years ago to embrace the values of a liberal democracy, of which freedom of speech is the most vital. M-103 will threaten free speech and goes directly against Canadian values. Canadians must speak out against this attack on their democratic values. But in many cases, people who are not prejudiced against any race or religion, but have concerns about this motion, are probably already feeling intimidated and may well choose to remain silent. This is the problem with motions like M-103. They cannot help but have a chilling effect on free speech and open debate. One need not be a cynic to suspect that’s actually the point, rather than a side effect.

Unfortunately, racism, bigotry and hate exists in all societies and has existed since time immemorial. This country is not immune. As caring Canadians, we must always speak out against these acts, and that does include anti-Muslim bigotry, and as seen recently in Quebec, even violent acts. This should rightly be opposed. But our commitment to fighting racism and violence must extend equally to all communities. After all, anti-Semitic acts are on the rise across the world and also in Canada.

It’s not laws, however, that will stop the rise of hate and bigotry. I believe that a motion like M-103 will only increase the frustration of ordinary Canadian who want (and have the right) to ask uncomfortable but necessary questions. Being concerned about creeping sharia is not phobic; questioning honour-based violence and FGM in Muslim-majority societies is not phobic. Furthermore, every citizen has the right to be concerned about the safety and security of their country. If they ask questions about radicalization leading to terrorism, that is not Islamophobic, but a reasonable response to the very real threat posed by Islamist terror groups to Canada and all other Western nations.

Sadly, the tragedy in Quebec is being used for political purposes to further the implementation of M-103. If there is to be any lesson learned from the murderous attack on innocent worshippers, it is that we need more intra-faith dialogue, discussion and debate. If M-103 is passed, it will silence constructive criticism and widen the gulf between Muslim and non-Muslim Canadians. It will hurt, not help, our efforts to build a more peaceful, tolerant and equal Canada. For these reasons, it is not phobic to oppose M-103. It is, in fact, the duty of every citizen of our democracy.

National Post

Raheel Raza is president of The Council for Muslims Facing Tomorrow and author of Their Jihad — Not My Jihad.

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LEARN FROM YESTERDAY, LIVE FOR TODAY AND HOPE FOR TOMORROW – Albert Einstein

WRAP UP OF 2016 – AND WHAT A YEAR IT WAS!
2016 was the year for travel. I travelled to 36 events and conferences through the year. January started with a visit to Sweden where we screened Honor Diaries in the Swedish Parliament and paid tribute to the victims of honor killings. To say that I was frozen to the gills would be an understatement – shame on me as a Canadian but the cold was bone chilling. A learning lesson to wear more layers and never be arrogant as a Canuck that we can weather winter.
February was shock treatment as I found myself at a conference in San Antonio where the main agenda was to slam Islam and Muslims through the voices of ex-Muslims who were eager to comply. I consider this an exercise in patience and managed to keep my cool. It was harsher than the cold winds of Feb in Canada but a learning of higher tolerance.
In March I thawed by being on The Bill Maher show and getting dozens of emails as feedback. The cutest one was the son who shyly wrote and asked that his mother wants to know where I got my outfit! That made my day.
April was challenging again as I was invited on BBC Hardtalk. Now talk about being naive! I did not check previous Hardtalk episodes so I arrived with no idea of what the “hard” means. I sweated bricks but am told I stood my ground. It was a learning experience I will never forget.
In June I received an award from EMET at an amazing event. I learned that the work we do is not about numbers but about ideas. Its one heart at a time.
July and August were supposed to be quiet summer months but morphed into conferences and travel. In July I was speaker at an outdoor interfaith Skylight Festival in Paris, Ontario where I learned that music is one way to the heart and soul.
In August I found myself back in DC as a speaker for WAPPNA – Women Physicians of APPNA, an organization formed by women physician members of APPNA. This was the first time a group of Pakistanis had invited me and there were almost 1000 Pakistanis there. It was a great learning experience that to make a difference, we also have to work from within our own communities. (Not to mention the awesome shopping!)
September was unusually busy. First I travelled to Phoenix, Arizona to help train the Sheriffs Department on Honor Based Violence. Me and dozens of firefighters were a motley group. This was followed by being a keynote speaker at the ICCT conference in Herzliya, Israel after which I did a short stint in Jerusalem which is of course the spiritual kick.
Then I was privileged to travel with Daniel Pipes and a group of people on a fact-finding educational tour of Europe which included Paris, Berlin and Stockholm. And what a learning this was to see firsthand what challenges Europe faces.
In September hubby and I taught an 8-week course at Ryerson called “Islam and the 21st. Century”. We focused on the truth, good bad and ugly and the responses were challenging and educational.
October highlight was to host Maajid Nawaz at an MFT event and spend some quality time getting to learn what Quilliam does. In October I was invited to UK to speak with The British Parliament for them to learn about the sharia debate in Ontario. Some amazing legislation results are being considered.
November was busy as we were invited on a Rebel cruise hosted by Ezra Levant, where once again we spoke on panels and spent a lot of time bridging the gap with Canadians from New Finland to British Columbia. I learnt that Canada is the largest exporter of lentils and that we will never starve as long as we know how to cook them.
December took me to Berlin to attend CWFF2016 where I spoke after the screening of Pakistani film Dukhtar. We did our Christmas shopping at the market which became a target for terror a week after we were at the exact same spot.
I also took a fall in Berlin which I had no time to recover from because as soon as we got back to Toronto, my grandsons came to stay for one week while their parents moved homes. Had to re-learn making lunches, ironing uniforms and doing homework – all of which was so much fun that I am ready to do it again! I learned that no matter how busy we are, grand children are the therapy we need and the joy of our lives.
End of December found us back in UK at Limmud2016 which is ALL about learning and was a profound experience. We made three joint presentations, two individual and showed one film. I saw Hummus – the Movie and loved it.
On a personal note, 2016 was very fulfilling but also marred with many terror incidents globally.
I managed to attend the Sufi Dergah frequently and inspired by spirituality, I managed to complete my transscript for “How to be a Spiritual Activist” (should be out sometime this year). End of 2016 also brought us Trump and the hysteria surrounding the election. It was hard to hold a civil conversation.
Tomorrow? Who knows what tomorrow will bring so my hope for the future is that Western leaders recognize the concept of global jihad and are willing to deal with it without political correctness.

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SUPPORTING THE RIGHTS OF ALL WOMEN TO BE EQUAL AND FREE – A REPORT FROM A TRIP TO HOUSE OF LORDS, UK

“We cannot continue with the present situation in which so many women are suffering in ways that would make the heroines of the suffragette movement turn in their graves.”- Baroness Cox

Last week I was invited to The House of Lords in UK by Baroness Caroline Cox to speak about Honor Based Violence and Sharia Courts in UK.
Baroness Cox’s Private Member’s Bill has been reintroduced into the House of Lords. The Bill – called the Arbitration and Mediation Services (Equality) Bill – seeks to address two interrelated issues: the suffering of women oppressed by religiously-sanctioned gender discrimination in the UK today; and a rapidly developing alternative quasi-legal system which undermines the fundamental principle of ‘one law for all’.
In an effort to increase support of the Bill, a new website has been launched by the not-for-profit organization Equal and Free Ltd. (http://equalandfree.org)
The work Baroness Cox is doing comes at a critical time in UK history where almost 100 Sharia courts exist, sanctioned by the government. As stories of abuse and misuse are emerging, many women are concerned about the future. Baroness Cox herself is an untiring advocate for the cause of women but has run up against red tape and some resistance.
I was invited to speak about the Canadian experience in Ontario when the notion of implementing sharia courts was defeated, as well as honor based violence.
The first session was attended by interested and supportive members of Parliament including Fiona Bruce MP, Lord Green of Deddington, Lord West, Viscount Bridgeman.
Lord Dholakia, Lord Elton and Lord Tebbit.
After I presented the story of the Ontario sharia debate, there were many questions about what can be done in UK. The situation in UK is precarious because the Sharia Councils are deeply embedded in the communities.
How did this happen and what are the results?
In her book Women and Sharia Law, a brilliant expose of the problem, Professor Elham Manea explores this question by building on her knowledge of legal pluralism in Middle Eastern and Islamic countries and by first-hand analysis of the Islamic shari’a councils and Muslim arbitration tribunals in various British cities. Women and Shari’a Law traces how support for legal pluralism evolved in the context of widespread racism and anti-immigrant sentiments leading up to the Race Relations Act of 1968. Through its focus on gender equality and women’s experiences, the book argues that the desire to resolve conflict, accommodate Muslim minorities, and reform a Euro-American-centric legal system developed into ‘The Essentialist Paradigm’. This is a post-colonial and post-modern discourse that treats people as ‘homogenous groups’, essentialising their cultures and religions, but disregarding individual and authentic voices. By meeting with the leading sheikhs―including the only women on their panels―as well as interviewing experts on extremism, lawyers, politicians and activists in civil society and women’s rights groups, the author offers a critique of legal pluralism, connecting it with political Islam and detailing the lived experiences of women in Muslim communities.
Most of the MP’s have been sent a copy of Manea’s book but the question on everyone’s mind is how to deal with the current issue at hand.
We heard from victims who are suffering because they were forced into a religious marriage with little or no information that they needed to register a civil marriage. After an abusive marriage when they want a divorce, they are in limbo because there is no record of a civil marriage and the religious leader refuses to acknowledge the marriage ever took place because he would be admitting to an offence. There are thousands of Muslim women caught up in this net of deceit and pressure.
In one case of polygamy, when the victim went to social services, they were told “you are Muslim so you should accept this!” Law enforcement will not intervene in many cases of abuse because they have been told not to meddle with the community.
These women are pleading for help.
After another meeting with Peers later that week as well as an in-depth meeting with organizations supporting women’s rights including Muslim Women’s Advisory Council and One Law For All, they came up with some ideas.
• While the law needs to be tweaked to change/revoke the bill that allows for a parallel set of laws, some urgent actions need to be put into place.
• The religious leaders need to be held accountable for all marriages they perform
• Public Service Messages in different languages need to be announced letting women know they have options
• Law enforcement needs to be trained to do the job without being politically correct
• Most importantly the government needs to take note and make this a priority

GROOMING AND SEX CRIMES
A separate event I attended was a conference hosted by MARIAS – Mothers Against Radical Islam and Sharia. This is run by Toni Bugle who was raped when she was a young girl and now she dedicates her life to mentoring and helping those who are facing similar issues and to help them tell their stories.
At this conference I heard the depressing and compelling stories of two women of Pakistani heritage who were victims of the Sharia courts and one white girl who had been groomed, raped and trafficked. I could not sleep that night. The sad part of their testimony is that neither mainstream law enforcement nor their own people did anything to help.
The Pakistani girl told me that in small, tight and (still tribal) communities of Muslim migrants in UK, if a girl decides to show independence or modernity, she is shunned by the community and treated as a loose, fast woman who can be used and abused. This story was heard over and over so these girls are caught between their own communities and the mainstream who have no desire to intervene.
Two days later there was a report in The Times about a Pakistani gang guilty of sex crimes. It referred to The Jay Report published by Alexis Jay in 2014 which validates stories of the victims. http://www.rotherham.gov.uk/downloads/file/1407/independent_inquiry_cse_in_rotherham
There is a lot that needs to be done at many levels. But the mandate of Council for Muslims Facing Tomorrow i.e. Expose, Educate and Eradicate was much appreciated by the attendees and at least the first part is being addressed. I am humbled and excited to be part of making the world a better place for women.

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